The Myths of Elopements

Elopements, what is an elopement? As the Merriam-Webster dictionary states that the way people are using the term of “elope” is changing and the way people define the word elopement is different than “to run away and secretly get married”. It’s important to know that there is no shame in an elopement. An elopement is an intimate ceremony of two people who are in love and want to celebrate that love by exchanging their vows in a meaningful place, doing meaningful things. To truly define “elopement” we need to debunk some myths behind traditional elopements and show you how an elopement can be the perfect way to celebrate for you and your partner! Here is a list of myths of elopements:

Myth #1: Eloping is just running away in secret

This is definitely the number one things that, especially older generations, think of when they hear the word elope. Modern elopements are intentional, planned experiences that reflect a couple’s values and desires. Many couples share their plans with loved ones or share their vows in a very intimate location just the two of them. Elopements today aren’t about secrecy; they’re about intimacy and authenticity. Many couples choose to elope because they want a stress-free, meaningful experience focused on their love rather than a big production.

Myth #2: Elopements are just a courthouse wedding

While some couples choose a courthouse, elopements can happen anywhere – from mountaintops to beaches to cozy cabins. They’re as adventurous or laid-back as the couple wants. Eloping gives couples the freedom to get married wherever and however they want. Whether it’s saying vows on a cliffside at sunset or in a charming historic inn, it’s all about creating a personal and memorable experience.

Myth #3: Eloping is for people who don’t care about their wedding

Many couples put just as much, if not more, thought and effort into their elopement as a traditional wedding – choosing a stunning location, meaningful details, and personal touches. Eloping doesn’t mean a couple cares less; it means they care more about making their wedding day reflect their relationship rather than external expectations.

Myth #4: Elopements aren’t as special or romantic as big weddings

Elopements are deeply romantic and personal, allowing couples to be fully present with each other without distractions or pressure. Imagine saying your vows with just the sound of waves crashing or birds singing in the background – no stress, no distractions, just pure love. That’s the magic of an elopement.

Myth #5: Elopements don’t include family or friends

Some couples elope alone, but many include a small group of loved ones. There are also creative ways to involve family, like live-streaming the ceremony or having a post-elopement celebration. Elopements can be just the couple, or they can include close family and friends. It’s about choosing the experience that feels right for them, not following a set rule.

Myth #6: Elopements are only for adventurous couples

This myth of elopements has a different perspective. Modern elopements are very popular with adventurous couples who want to hike for 10 miles, say their vows on the top of a mountain, and then climb 10 more miles. While some couples love a hiking or destination elopement, others prefer a cozy Airbnb, a historic estate, or a backyard ceremony. Eloping isn’t just for adventurers! Whether you want to exchange vows in a candlelit library or by a quiet lake, there’s an elopement style for everyone.

Myth #7: You can’t have nice details like a dress, bouquet, or cake at an elopement

Elopements can include all the traditional wedding elements – flowers, attire, a cake, a first dance. Whatever you want for your elopement, you can have! An elopement can have everything a traditional wedding does, just without the big crowd. Many couples still wear stunning outfits, have a bouquet, and celebrate with a cake or champagne toast.

Myth #8: Eloping is cheaper than a traditional wedding

While elopements often can cost less, they aren’t necessarily “cheap”. Couples may still invest in photography, travel, attire, and special experiences to make their day unforgettable. Elopements are about prioritizing what matters most. Some couples save money, while others invest in an epic location, amazing photography, or a unique experience. The best thing you can do is to figure out what matters most to you and your partner. You can sacrifice having a large expensive wedding venue, and spend that money on other experiences that may be more meaningful for you.

Myth #9: Elopements are last-minute decisions

Many couples plan their elopement months in advance, carefully choosing the location, vendors, and personal details. Just like a traditional wedding, an elopement takes planning – choosing the perfect spot, arranging vendors, and making it meaningful. The difference is that the planning is focused on the couple’s vision without external expectations. Although many elopement couples plan their elopement within a year of eloping while most traditional wedding couples plan for a year or more for their big day.

Myth #10: You’ll regret eloping instead of having a big wedding

Most couples who elope say it was the best decision they made because they stayed true to themselves. One big reason why some may be hesitant on eloping is because they’re afraid their family will be upset or will try to pressure them into having the traditional wedding with hundreds of guests. One thing that is so important to hear is “THIS IS YOUR WEDDING DAY!”. You can’t let others dictate how you celebrate your love. The biggest regret we hear from couples is not eloping sooner! When they look back, they love that their wedding day was stress-free, intimate, and focused on their love.

The myths of elopements often paint them as secret, last-minute decisions or simple courthouse weddings. Modern elopements are not about secrecy or rushing; they are intentional, deeply personal experiences that allow couples to celebrate their love in a way that feels right for them. Whether exchanging vows on a mountaintop, in a cozy Airbnb, or in the middle of the city, elopements can include all the meaningful details of a traditional wedding without the stress of a big event.

You can elope just about anywhere you want in the World. We highly recommend Michigan as your destination for an elopement. We have become experts in locations in Michigan that can make the perfect backdrop for your elopement day. To find out some of these locations, check out our blog post!

We are Erika and Stephen and we are a photo and video team located in Michigan. We help couples just like you, plan their elopement day from start to finish! To find out more information on how we can help you, visit us here!